• YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    I was surprised to learn that there are many women who have never had an orgasm. And that pressure to have one has become yet another social imperative women never asked for. Why shame the woman? Should they not have agency over their own bodies? The implication that it’s a failing of their partner suggests that it’s beyond their control.

    It feels like a very male-centric outlook to view orgasms as essential to sex. Of course, one would assume women could take matters into their own hands, so to speak, but I’ve been told by female friends that, for many women, it’s not as simple as that, psychologically.

    My own opinion is that, in our race for equality (which I support), we’ve often chosen to flatten gender differences rather than celebrate or acknowledge them. We’ve assumed that sexuality/desire/impulse/physiology is the same across genders, and that differences are down to individual mindsets rather than biological. I think it’s both, but we’ve neglected the latter.

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      There was a study about womens sexual satisfaction in long term relationships and a high percentage said they were not satisfied.

      Its not just about orgasms specifically I’d bet, and unfortunately a lot of men don’t really think about the womans pleasure during sex, they get off and then they’re done.

      Of course I’m sure there’s not really a way to blanket say what the problem ultimately is as it depends on the situation/people.

    • WIZARD POPE💫@lemmy.world
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      12 hours ago

      I myself don’t view orgasms as essential to sex. At least not anymore. I am a bit saddened that my gf says she has never had an orgasm. And I don’t think anyone in particular is to blame here.

  • abbiistabbii@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    You joke, but I’m currently studying the history of my area’s mental health system and people believed giving birth and lactating made women insane.

  • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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    … fortunately for you, I have a treatment that won’t cost much. No, you can’t watch. Also, there’s a discount if you pay for a full year in advance.

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    I’m a man, but I like it when my wife has orgasms. Often I do, too. Sometimes the two coincide and I really like that.

    I suspect men of old also loved their lovers, though not universally. Hopefully the ladies came as well.

  • Wilco@lemmy.zip
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    Yes, but lets not discuss the fainting spells and the massage treatments that noble women received to relieve their bouts of “hysteria”.

    Honestly, I wonder how much of that is real versus made up for slander “Let them eat cake” was not quite ancient history in the Victorian era.