I think you’re on to something, but just to be sure, could you say it again without trying to sound like a wizard?
If you value some relationship (for whatever reason, be it work, family or communal), you only need to put up with difficult people as much as the valued relationship requires you to.
As in, there’s no “objective” amount of how much you need to put up with difficult people. It’s defined by people you already have around you. If people around you demand that you have to spend time and energy on a difficult person way more than you want, it’s on you to figure out if those people are worth it.
no
translation: you do have to engage with your shitty coworkers if you want to keep your job
Deep shit.
One said what?
If there’s someone you don’t like, you only have to deal with them as much as your other relationships need you to.
Your MIL is awful -> engage with her only as much as your spouse expects you to.
If she’s a total bitch and your spouse expects you to be besties and you can’t talk it out -> re-evaluate your relationship
What kind of people you have around you determine what kind of people you’re expected to put up with.
What is important to you determines what kind of people you have around you.
No, What’s on second.
