I just don’t feel feminine, аlthough I have long hair, I use makeup and I can’t be called tomboy, but I think calling me a woman sounds ridiculous, I’m not sure why, has anyone dealt with this?
I was the same, but with being a man. Until I realised that true masculinity isn’t being about strong and muscle-y or being a womaniser, but by being protective and responsible and dependable. Having integrity and humility and serving people.
Not sure if it’s relevant to why you feel ridiculous, but feeling like you don’t qualify as what you are is common I think.
In my 20s I felt like a 7 year old boy dressed up in a suit and grandma pinching my cheek and going “well who is this handsome man?”.
A woman doesn’t have to be feminine, there are plenty of masc and butch women. Would you feel more comfortable with short hair? There are also other options. Would you feel more comfortable thinking of yourself as a man (men can also be feminine or masculine), or neither, or both?
I didn’t feel comfortable calling myself a woman, but not crossing any gender boundary, I just always preferred “girl”. I didn’t feel mature enough to be a woman until I kinda forced myself to claim that title. With enough use I now feel comfortable referring to myself as a woman.
Titles and gender can be hard. You are allowed to experiment until you find the expression and terminology that suits you. But also, its okay to feel ridiculous, you can grow into feeling comfortable with whichever terminology you want.
Lol, I’m male but I don’t even feel “masculine”, whatever that’s supposed to mean.
My parents always tells me: “男子漢大丈夫，流血不流淚” (translates to “Real men would rather bleed before crying” or something like that) and I just fuckint cringe.
Like do they want me to die in a battlefield or something lmao
I just cried a lot when I just arrived in the US as a child. Cuz I got bullied a lot…
And my parents were abusive to me… and then they wonder why their child cries a lot…
But I also cry when I see the news and all the sad things that happen in the world.
Like… fuck “gender stereotypes”. The world is the way is it because we have men that want to act so tough and “masculine” and completely throw out their empathy and morals.
Lmao my mom used to say real men don’t cry.
One day as a teen I was angry and tearing up and she said that, so I just screamed at her “I’VE SEEN DAD AND GRANDPA BOTH CRY SO SHUT THE FUCK UP” And honestly I think she realized she was wrong at least about that, because she has never said it since even to my sister’s kids, and I didn’t even get in trouble for swearing at her.
Cry away, fellow human. Disregard those who cannot allow themselves to feel emotions for fear of seeming “less than”.
Being called a woman isn’t something you “deserve”, it’s just a gender assignment that means nothing.
Just do your own thing, if you don’t feel like the label fits you, you don’t need it anyway.
Don’t follow the “gender assignment” trend. If OP is female and shes’s cis, she’s a woman. People can’t assign you the gender “woman”, you define the kind of woman you are.
How do you account for nonbinary people with female bits?
Doesn’t “cis” exclude that identity?
