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Cake day: February 2nd, 2026

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  • Developmental psychology (Erik Erickson’s theory) teaches us that adults tend to go one of two ways as they approach and hit mid-life - generativity and stagnation. People who have a purpose, who are considering leaving some sort of mark or legacy, to contributing to society tend to fare better. They are happier and more satisfied as time goes on. Folks who become self-absorbed and preoccupied with their own comfort and convenience will then stagnate, which you can imagine is the cranky old person stereotype.

    I do subscribe to this theory which is why at 43 I am running a non-profit I started, working to empower other leaders in my community, working on changing legislation for my community, working on building the community itself. I want to be the kind of person who is generous and kind and open-hearted, and be fulfilled. I don’t want to be the person who is counting the ways life did them wrong, using that as a justification to lick wounds and retreat from life, jaded and alone.


  • My boss claims it has “no effect” to choose where to spend your money.

    I remind him, voting with our wallets is literally the only mechanism Capitalism provides for consumer ethics.

    It’s Prisoner’s dilemma. When we think 5m people are going to take the action either way, we don’t think our singular efforts matter. But as there are 5m of us taking the action, there are 5m singular efforts that DO matter. If people just don’t give up on the idea.

    Says the guy who still has an Amazon account :/















  • Go to the mall, find a sunglasses stand. Try on polarized sunglasses until you find something you like under $12 or so.

    You’ll find the brand/model number written somewhere on the frame. Google it, and find someplace to buy them by the case.

    By a case of 10, put it in your drawer. Bonus points for getting it in another color (I have a set of white frame chunky glasses, but also the exact same model in black for fancy occasions).

    Now you have sunglasses you can afford to lose constantly, a backup supply, and a signature look.