I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Yeah I dated an Indian girl whose family didn’t permit her dating me. I know from experience that I’m talking to a brick wall but if I could go back I would’ve never started that relationship or left it as soon as possible. If someone isn’t rejecting their family outright they will never choose you. You’re being used as an outlet for their desires that exist outside the culture they live in, it isnt love. Love doesn’t have to hide, it insists upon itself.
True love isn’t real, whatever you see in this person isn’t unique and exists in countless others; others who who will be everything you want without the burden of overbearing family. The longer you stay in this relationship the more of these people you will see slip between your fingers.