I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Everyone deserved to be someones first priority. That means you. You deserve someone who puts you first in life, regardless of your age. They can still be chill. they can still meet your needs.
The only person you are justifying current circumstance here is to yourself.
sadly a lot of people would rather be someone’s side piece than someone who would put them first.
mostly because they have internal conflicts and won’t allow themselves to be happy so they find security in a unhappy situation.