I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Depends on what you want for your future I guess. If I was in your shoes and I knew I want something different for me in the future, I’d break up (maybe stay friends with benefits) and look for that future. Otherwise I’d be scared to miss out on that person.
Your are a grown up and obviously know that this won’t work out long term so stick with it as long as it makes you feel good and doesn’t prevent you from working towards your desired future.