My ex actually sent my therapist MULTIPLE emails to try to share her side of the story, and also to try to get him to share confidential information about me. Apparently in all his years of therapizing, he’d never seen anything quite that crazy.
My ex-boss stopped talking to me over something stupid. I pretend he does not exist wherever he passes by, was the only one not to wish him a happy bday, go out of my way to avoid mentioning, and would not piss on him if he was on fire.
Amyway, once you are done with a person, be done with them proper. At best, you should treat them as a prop, not a human.
Therapy exhausts me, and I’d like to be uninvited to these sessions as I don’t have much to add, but seeing posts like this and reading other peoples stories makes me realize that it could absolutely be so much worse.
This is a total tangent, but, WHO THE FUCK IS WALTON GOGGINS?..the man just appears out of nowhere to show up in all my adverts, and I sit here, “Walton Goggins, you named your kid ‘walton’”?
The first time his name showed up in my news feed I genuinely thought it was a character name of some movie or video game villain. Imagine my surprise when I found out that’s the actor’s actual name.
IKR!
If you haven’t seen Vice Principals, I can’t decide if I should recommend it or warn you to avoid it. Both. Let’s go with both.
Avoid it, because it was so good.
Consider it taken under advisement.
He’s been around since the 2000’s, he was perfectly cast in The Shield and just has been a soild actor in everything I’ve seen him in. Glad he’s final getting his roses.
He was perfect for Boyd in Justified as well. Very under rated show, in my opinion, but very well acted throughout.
Honestly one of my favorite fictional characters ever
Walter Googins is goddamn awesome, if he is in it then its going be a good movie/show.
Thanks, I realise now I have seen him numerous times, but has just come into his “William H. Macy” moment.
The Waltons were a thing
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Lol I’d love to be a fly on the wall at one of my ex’s therapy sessions as I know for sure she’s incapable of telling the truth about just about anything. The fantasies she concocts are more amusing when you know everything.
I try real hard to remind myself when people tell me their sob stories that somewhere out there is someone who would be flabbergasted at the bullshit being spewed in my face.
It’s extra fun when they are delusional enough to accidentally tell on themselves.
For example, if someone tells me unprompted that their nasty family members are falsely accusing them of something and cut off contact over it, I immediately believe whatever “false” accusations they claim to have against them.
I use this example because I literally had this conversation with a total stranger and he truly had no idea how bad he was making himself look.
It’s not all the time but if someone has sob story after sob story after drama after drama I start to think they’re just telling me stories about their victims.
“If it smells like shit everywhere you go, check your shoe” sums it up pretty nice
If you run into an asshole in the morning, you just ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re probably the asshole.
That stat only checks out if there’s less than 50% assholes around you all day, which is a tenuous proposition at best.
That literally is my ex. Me and all her other exes were apparently violent and abusive, cheaters, bad with money and 100 other things. Like she literally tells her friends I was violent but also begs to get me back because her new boyfriend can’t hold down a job and she doesn’t want to go back to work either.
Everything is protection with her.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
I mean just by letting her manipulate me into debt and purchases, I took a financial hit that would make most people look up the LD50 of whatever they find in their medicine cabinet, but I’ll survive. As for the rest of the abuse, I literally don’t give a fuck anymore. It’s over and since all the other people in my life are genuinely awesome, I have plenty of support.
Eyy big up. 👊
As someone who fell prey to someone that way, yep. I try not to be callous, but at a certain point it goes from “you’re part of the problem” and into “you’re incapable of coping with a boring normal situation and so you just cause problems to deal with it”
People who feel the need to feed drama in their life feel like they don’t matter. They create problems to feel like something actually matters in their life, that they matter, that their problems matter, and they create these problems themselves to involve others to get that social validation of themselves as being people who matter. It’s basically narcissism. They feel like they don’t get as much attention as they think they deserve, so they create problems for everyone so that they have to pay attention.
Therapist: “Another rube to line my pockets…”
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Sarcasm is my love language
“…you see, it was actually considerably worse and I refuse to keep getting undersold by her like that.”
Well that’s a novel take on things
“First of all I absolutely let you have all the privacy you wanted. Second of all those were my Corn Flakes and I was absolutely justified in cutting your brakes. Back me up here, doc.”
One of my ex’s told me she lies and hides things during therapy. That’s probably the best way to use therapy. But that would make this all the more interesting to hear.
Depending on what it is, you kinda have to hide some things unless you want a trip to the grippy socks hospital.
I tried to check the “have you ever considered murdering someone” box, and the psych actually stopped me.
