Police association chief Dirk Peglow has stirred debate with his advice to women to avoid relationships with men for safety's sake. But his provocative tip is not without reason, as statistics show.
yes, because our society basically thinks female on male sexual assault is ‘getting lucky’. even when it’s female on male underage rape, the media portrays it as no big deal and the majority of the commentary is ‘that boy was so lucky’. but if it’s male on female, the male assaulter is the scum of the earth and people fantasize about killing him.
I wouldn’t be shocked at all if female to male partner violence was roughly on par with male on female violence, in reality. some studies show the rates are much higher than anyone suspects. but there is so much bias that female on male assault is not assault, sexual, physical, emotional, etc. our gender norms basically permit women to be violent without shame or consequence, meanwhile we are eternally vigilant about male on female violence.
One of my biggest take away from therapy was learning it’s NOT OK for a woman to scream, hit, threaten, or use other abusive/manipulative tactics on me. It’s also why I’ve basically been almost perpetual single since therapy, because the vast majority of women I have ever dated do these things and it’s considered completely normal for a man to tolerate it, and totally unacceptable for a man to do these things to a woman. The double standards are completely insane.
But hey, clearly I’m a closeted homosexual if I don’t enjoy being screamed at, threatened with violence, or physically/sexually assaulted by a woman!
yes, because our society basically thinks female on male sexual assault is ‘getting lucky’. even when it’s female on male underage rape, the media portrays it as no big deal and the majority of the commentary is ‘that boy was so lucky’. but if it’s male on female, the male assaulter is the scum of the earth and people fantasize about killing him.
I wouldn’t be shocked at all if female to male partner violence was roughly on par with male on female violence, in reality. some studies show the rates are much higher than anyone suspects. but there is so much bias that female on male assault is not assault, sexual, physical, emotional, etc. our gender norms basically permit women to be violent without shame or consequence, meanwhile we are eternally vigilant about male on female violence.
One of my biggest take away from therapy was learning it’s NOT OK for a woman to scream, hit, threaten, or use other abusive/manipulative tactics on me. It’s also why I’ve basically been almost perpetual single since therapy, because the vast majority of women I have ever dated do these things and it’s considered completely normal for a man to tolerate it, and totally unacceptable for a man to do these things to a woman. The double standards are completely insane.
But hey, clearly I’m a closeted homosexual if I don’t enjoy being screamed at, threatened with violence, or physically/sexually assaulted by a woman!