i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).
i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.
i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???
i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.
see, what you did here by explaining your sexuality, is how you should approach it in general.
Pick whatever label gets the basic point across (sounds like demisexual is the most apt, but since it’s quite niche to know what it means “ace” might be more useful), and then if anyone actually needs to know the precise details you simply explain it to them like you did here.
The label doesn’t define you, it’s just there to summarize your unique experience.