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  • There’s definitely an important distinction between mentioning it in casual conversation vs getting a workout buddy / nutritionist / whatever to genuinely hold you accountable and support you.

    I’m sure it also depends on personality. I used to assert it held me accountable too, but over the years I’ve had to admit that was delusion.

    Apparently I’m very motivated by positive feedback and need to withhold it until I’ve actually done the thing.

    Certainly not universal. We all gotta find our own way









  • I wasn’t super into DC comics, but the cartoons were what was on when I would stay with my grandmother, and a certain episode of Superman with Dr Fate really moved me.

    There was some terrible magical threat, and Superman had tried to get Dr Fate to help, but he refused with something like, “I’ve banished this threat countless times, yet every time it returns stronger. No matter how hard I fight, mankind continues to torment one another. Evil continues to rear its ugly head. I don’t know if I can still triumph, and I’m so very tired.” And Superman was like “F U I’ll do it myself,”

    While Superman was fighting, Dr Fate suddenly showed up with the assist and managed to seal away the bad dude. Superman said something like, “I thought you were done with this fight,” and Dr Fate’s response has stuck with me all these decades:

    “You made me realize evil isn’t the only force that keeps coming back.”






  • Strongly suggest not telling anyone when you make such a decision. Keep it to yourself, work privately, and keep going until someone else comments (and then keep going anyway).

    Telling people gets their praise, then you have a false sense of accomplishment and motivation gets sapped.

    Completely projecting. Maybe you’re already doing this, what do I know? But maybe it’s a helpful perspective, so I said it anyway.